Updated: Feb 12
The following is a synopsis of my transformational journey. The journey began with the heartbreaking and unexpected end to my marriage.
My story started with the heartbreaking and unexpected end to my marriage in November, 2017. The shock of the separation was the catalyst for my transformational journey. Early on I discovered a deep love for all things creative: art, music, and writing. Through an unearthed passion in writing I started to journal. I wrote in an attempt to make sense of what happened to my marriage, but also better understand the changes that were occurring in my consciousness.
December was filled with a continued theme of grief, but also a resolved commitment to learn and grow from my setback with hopes of avoiding a lifetime of loneliness and pain.
The new year began with a tattoo, satori ananda, which I translated to mean: awaken to happiness. My commitment to better understanding the changes in my thought patterns were accelerated through books by Eckart Tolle and Michael Singer. I began to put more focus and energy on developing a sense of self awareness to better control the lingering thoughts of despair, but also to hold on to the brief moments of bliss that began to appear in my world.
In February I moved to Victoria for work and a three-month project as a site engineer. Dispite high hopes that the move to a new city would be my saviour, I quickly realized that it would take more than a change of scenery to lift me out of my low point. The month was full of a continuation of higher highs and lower lows which I captured with a second tattoo; a wave on my right forearm.
Everything changed in March when I hired a life coach. A stunning former beauty pageant winner and television star, my new coach lured me in over social media with her beauty but it was her relentless commitment to a disciplined mindset that ultimately lead me to hire her. Over the month she helps me finally shed my victim mindset from the separation and develop clarity on the type of life I wanted to live and the new person that I wanted to become.
“Everything changes in March when I hired a life coach. A stunning former beauty pageant winner and television star, my new coach lured me in over social media with her beauty but it was her relentless commitment to a disciplined mindset that ultimately lead me to hire her.”
My transformation continued in April, my last month Victoria. Through books by Dr. Joe Dispenza I began to appreciate the power of the human brain. I decided to dedicate every spare moment to learning and expanding my mind. After a realization that I was wasting countless hours hungover following meaningless bar nights, I made the decision to remove alcohol from my life. After a brief glimpse of living my ‘dream life’ following a midweek surf and writing session at an oceanside café, I began to get more clarity on the power of manifesting dreams.
During this time in Victoria I began to share everything I was learning with a growing audience on social media. As the transformation continued I realized that I was finally living my true authentic life; at the same time I began to inspire and motivate others to do the same. During this time it became clear that this ability to inspire and help others was both my purpose and passion in this life; with that clarity I committed to launch my own coaching business and write a book about my story.
“During this time it became clear that this ability to inspire and help others was both my purpose and passion in life.”
The book concludes with a two-and-a-half-month adventure through Nicaragua and Costa Rica. On the trip I attended a surf and yoga retreat, complete the first draft of my manuscript, launched my coaching business, continued to obsessively read and learn, met numerous other travellers, broke a surfboard in half on a dangerous wave, then got forced out of Nicaragua due to the growing civil unrest.
The journey concluded in an outdoor yoga studio at a Peace Retreat in Costa Rica. It was here that I experienced a powerful meditation and realized how fortunate I was to have the friends and family whose love ultimately lifted me out of my low point and set me on this journey of self discovery.
My only wish in sharing my story is that it will help one person out of their dark place.
Love & light,